6/15/2007

To Preach and validate

Blogging has proven to be a bizzare sub surreal experience for me where I find myself living and communicating in an alternate reality: I spill out my guts to a bunch of complete strangers on the internet, and then wait anxiously to read their feedback on my personal life and innermost thoughts .

When you really sit back and suck in the implications of this interesting form of communication, you realize how pathetic and ridiculous this vain need for validation is.

But aye, the plot does thicken. Because out of the diverse group of readers/commenters of all over the world, ages, interests and what have you, there will always be some ragingly insecure loser with an impassioned need to validate HIMSELF at your expense by going through your archives, psychoanalyzing your personality and then telling you that you're wrong, you're perception is skewed, and takes considerable amount of time from his schedule to write you a lengthy email advising you how you should change your thinking:

"I have a feeling your opinions are based on skewed principles. I think you weigh much of your principles on their perceived application at certain cultures, for ideas/principles are pointless if they can’t be applied. From this, you should conclude two things: 1) if you’re going to compare cultures you must compare the results (application) of principles. 2) You must deal with factual/statistical realities rather than your limited exposure to certain layers of society. If you go through this exercise objectively, you’ll find that our culture doesn’t rate so bad, relatively speaking"

In my head, I am screaming "what the heck is he going off about"? So I read it over again and realized that this freak is criticizing my perception process. Its just too funny!
There are some people in this world that just love to preach. They preach to their siblings, they preach to their friends, they preach to their colleagues, and they preach to random strangers on the internet. The question is....why?

WHY?

What is accomplished by lecturing people that their way of thinking is wrong, and that your way is right? Does it, on a sick level, yield some sort of personal satisfaction? Does it validate one's own lifestlye and mentality for theirself? Does it reaffirm their own values when they see they have suceeded in imposing their perceptions on those that are supoosedly different? Why is there always a defined right and wrong...why can't it be whats right for you is right for you and whats right for me is right for me and lets both accept it and be blithe.

8 Comments:

At Friday, 15 June, 2007, Blogger 1001 Nights said...

CD habeebty 7IGRAII 7IGRAII! As I grow up I find that the old saying "il 7igran yga6i il mi9ran" to be of incredible use!

Sorry you had to go through that. It's a risk you run when you have the courage to write your very personal ideas on the internet.

 
At Saturday, 16 June, 2007, Blogger Warda said...

"6anish....ta3ish ...tanta3ish"

it's no ones business to tell you how to think

بعد كل واحد و كيفه شلون يفكر

في ناس بس تبي اتداحر على الطل
!!!

 
At Saturday, 16 June, 2007, Blogger don_veto said...

I never knew your blog was supposed to be a cultural thesis backed by "factual/statistical realities". I just thought it was you speaking about your (mis)adventures and just for fun. Someone needs to get a new life or hobby, and its not you.

 
At Saturday, 16 June, 2007, Anonymous Anonymous said...

WOMEN AFTER ALL !

 
At Sunday, 17 June, 2007, Blogger Erzulie said...

I agree with 1001 nights. And the only one who knows your intent and where you're coming from is you; I don't think you should alter your ways and words so as to make everyone who reads your blog "get it;" people are different after all. I go for ignore: some people will continue to shake their fingers at others if given the chance and I'm sorry to be the one to say this but personally, I've had a few comments that angered me and upset me a lot. But then I thought, "Why bother?" I chose to dismiss them and simply continue to be myself.

Chin up CD! Between you and me, I think you're fabulous :)

 
At Monday, 18 June, 2007, Blogger freethinker2007 said...

the question that begs to be asked is this:
Is there such a thing as absulte truth or morality?
I think you were a bit harsh on him for calling your principles screwed. but I think he was referring to the fact that you have numerosuly shown your disgust at some people's behaviours ( i agreed with most of your grievances). and he was demanding you to be a bit relative on your judegment. in other words he was confirming your idea of the right to be differnt as long as it does not viloate rational thinking, scientific knowlefge etc. but maybe he was not eloabrate enough and he was a bit harsh himself. thanx

 
At Monday, 02 July, 2007, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Salam. :) With years of seeing how the famous dodge criticism - I think the graceful way is "thank you for your point of view, I appreciate it. I will judge the best of my ability, salam. الحمد لله"

The Quran adviced, just say Salam. :)

 
At Saturday, 07 July, 2007, Anonymous Anonymous said...

CD girl this guy is simply providing you with another viewpoint to contemplate.. Don't get so annoyed, for "It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." - Aristotle. Ponder his message and you will see it is not so "preachy" as you may have felt it was. I am sure he was so encapsulated by your blogs and taken with your ideas that he decided to share his ideas with you, which is a great compliment. If he was not impressed by your writing, he would not have bothered to comment on it :) LOVE LOVE LOVE YA!
"An open mind means a never ending frontier."

 

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